Going into motherhood, I knew I wouldn’t have everything figured out. I was ready to face challenges and hurdles.
…but I wish I told myself these things along the way.
Now, don’t get me wrong. I’m a mom of a two year old (ie.: a two-nager), so I still consider myself a new parent. Yup, I’m still figuring things out, changing routines, and re-thinking strategies. In fact, I believe that once you enter motherhood, everything will be an ongoing learning experience (as life always is).
Two years ago, as my little guy entered this world, I wish I had more confidence in my decisions – that I trusted myself more. I wish that I vocalized myself better… for both my well-being and his.
There are things every mom should consistently tell herself.
5 Things Every Mom Should Tell Herself
1. Remind Yourself to “Ignore the Unsolicited Advice”
…because they’re a dime a dozen.
The moment I found out I was pregnant, I found myself caught-up in conversations where others gave me their 2 cents.
And I knew it wasn’t coming from a bad place.
But trust me, it gets overwhelming. This day in age, we are already overloaded with tons of information. Mamas: when advice comes at you unexpectedly, don’t feel like you have to respond or agree to it. You know what’s best for your family. I recommend to just kindly nod and move on to the next topic.
2. “I deserve to treat myself.”
When it comes to mom guilt, I was totally feeling it every time I would do something for myself. I’m grateful because my husband is totally a hands-on dad. He often encourages me to go out and see friends or enjoy something like a day at the spa.
But I couldn’t help but feel guilty.
Mamas, feeling your best and indulging in self-care is not selfish. You have to feel your best in order to do your best. It’s all about a healthy balance.
3. Don’t Forget to Ask: “Can You Help Me?”
There is no shame in asking for help. As a former retail manager, I was all about delegating tasks and leveraging my team and their abilities.
Then, comes in: motherhood. At the beginning, I was trying to do everything on my own. Being close to burnout, I had to get my head in the game. What would ‘manager-Lisa’ do?
It’s okay to ask for help. You’re not expected to be Wonder Woman (although, she is pretty awesome).
4. “Let’s order pizza tonight!
You’re human. Take the apron off, put the sponge down. Your house doesn’t need to be sparkling. You’re not expected to always prepare something homecooked. It’s okay, it’s okay, it’s okay.
5. Remind Yourself: “It’s just a phase.”
…at least, most of the time.
Baby’s not doing her nights? Toddler’s starting to do tantrums?
Deep breaths, mama. There’s a way around it and you don’t need to find a solution yesterday. Talk it over with your partner and/or other family members. Ask for help (remember point 3?). So long as you pay attention to the problem and are open to different solutions (that works best for you and your family, of course), then it is likely just another phase.
So, mamas, tell me: what are some things you wish you told yourself when you first entered motherhood?