5 Things Every Mom Should Tell Herself

Going into motherhood, I knew I wouldn’t have everything figured out. I was ready to face challenges and hurdles.

Going into parenthood is no easy feat... mamas, take care of yourself. Here are 5 things every mom should tell herself

…but I wish I told myself these things along the way.

Now, don’t get me wrong. I’m a mom of a two year old (ie.: a two-nager), so I still consider myself a new parent. Yup, I’m still figuring things out, changing routines, and re-thinking strategies. In fact, I believe that once you enter motherhood, everything will be an ongoing learning experience (as life always is).

Two years ago, as my little guy entered this world, I wish I had more confidence in my decisions – that I trusted myself more. I wish that I vocalized myself better… for both my well-being and his.

There are things every mom should consistently tell herself.

5 Things Every Mom Should Tell Herself

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1. Remind Yourself to “Ignore the Unsolicited Advice”

…because they’re a dime a dozen.

The moment I found out I was pregnant, I found myself caught-up in conversations where others gave me their 2 cents.

And I knew it wasn’t coming from a bad place.

But trust me, it gets overwhelming. This day in age, we are already overloaded with tons of information. Mamas: when advice comes at you unexpectedly, don’t feel like you have to respond or agree to it. You know what’s best for your family. I recommend to just kindly nod and move on to the next topic.

2. “I deserve to treat myself.”

When it comes to mom guilt, I was totally feeling it every time I would do something for myself. I’m grateful because my husband is totally a hands-on dad. He often encourages me to go out and see friends or enjoy something like a day at the spa.

But I couldn’t help but feel guilty.

Mamas, feeling your best and indulging in self-care is not selfish. You have to feel your best in order to do your best. It’s all about a healthy balance.

Going into parenthood is no easy feat... mamas, take care of yourself. Here are 5 things every mom should tell herself

3. Don’t Forget to Ask: “Can You Help Me?”

There is no shame in asking for help. As a former retail manager, I was all about delegating tasks and leveraging my team and their abilities.

Then, comes in: motherhood. At the beginning, I was trying to do everything on my own. Being close to burnout, I had to get my head in the game. What would ‘manager-Lisa’ do?

It’s okay to ask for help. You’re not expected to be Wonder Woman (although, she is pretty awesome).

4. “Let’s order pizza tonight!

You’re human. Take the apron off, put the sponge down. Your house doesn’t need to be sparkling. You’re not expected to always prepare something homecooked. It’s okay, it’s okay, it’s okay.

5. Remind Yourself: “It’s just a phase.”

…at least, most of the time.

Baby’s not doing her nights? Toddler’s starting to do tantrums?

Deep breaths, mama. There’s a way around it and you don’t need to find a solution yesterday. Talk it over with your partner and/or other family members. Ask for help (remember point 3?). So long as you pay attention to the problem and are open to different solutions (that works best for you and your family, of course), then it is likely just another phase.

Going into parenthood is no easy feat... mamas, take care of yourself. Here are 5 things every mom should tell herself

So, mamas, tell me: what are some things you wish you told yourself when you first entered motherhood?

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  1. Oh this is good information to remember especially for those new moms. Don’t ever compare your kid to someone else’s

  2. Back in the day when I had my children, I felt so much pressure to be the perfect mom. We had to have our kids potty trained by a certain age (before they turned 2) etc. and I love that things are not as complicated today as they were then – not as much judgment these days, or so it seems to me.

  3. oh gosh i needed to read this today. thank you so much for sharing what we really need to hear and tell ourselves every day. as moms we always put yourselves last but we really need to try and put ourselves first. thanks so much again- ill be sharing w/ a few other moms

  4. That is self-love and that is a wonderful thing to do to yourself. Great read to know how a soon-to-be mother is thinking. I guess, sometimes they get overwhelmed by too much information but what you tell here are vital for motherhood. Keep it up!

  5. I would add to always listen to your mother’s instinct. I have had many things over the years that I listened to my instinct on and it was a good thing that I did!

  6. This is great! I’ve never been a mom but I understand being a caretaker. You do need time for yourself to be a better caregiver. Also kids need to be exposed to dust and dirt or they’ll grow up to be allergic to everything.

  7. I think everything that you say here is very important. Anybody and everybody can give wonderful advice but in the end it’s your child and you know what’s best for them. Unsolicited advice may be out of love but I have learned to ignore it.

  8. I wish I had read this 14 years ago… though I do think that we all tend to learn our lessons along the way. That’s the beautiful part of motherhood.

  9. These are great things to keep in mind. Unfortunately, that unsolicited advice never stops! My youngest child is 18, and I still get unsolicited advice from well-meaning friends and family. I do ignore it, but it wears on my nerves at times.

  10. MOtherhood is definitely a journey… and not always a smooth one. I find that my stress levels are lower when I make time to unwind and do something small for myself (manicure, lunch with a friend).

  11. Awesome list! You are Rocking this motherhood thing. #6 Give yourself permission to be human. You got this Girl. 💕

  12. These are all things I have to tell myself every so often, otherwise I’d drive myself mad! Being a mum is hard, so we definitely should accept any help we’re offered 🙂

    Louise x

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