Turning 30 on the 30th. Bring on the champagne.
I sit back on my computer chair as I slowly jot down every point on this list. I don’t know whether to cry, feel pride, or laugh at these last 30 years. Honestly, I’ll most likely be doing all three and you know what? I have no shame in that.
I have been so excited about turning 30. Recently, I stumbled on a satiric social media post where someone mourned their last day of their 20s. While I respect their choice of celebration, I can’t help but be ecstatic for my milestone birthday.
Turning 30: I’m exactly where I want to be and I know exactly what I want for my future.
30 Things I Wish I Told Myself Before Turning 30
- That breakup is not going to hold you back. In fact, it’ll push you further. Cry it out and let it out. There’s nothing wrong with emotions and don’t let anyone let you think otherwise.
- Job after job, you’ll finally find something that you’re super passionate for. I promise.
- At one point, things will seem completely hopeless in high school but I assure you, there’s a group of loving people waiting to meet you.
- That blonde look is not for you.
- Invest in real estate as early as you can – it will feel incredibly accomplishing buying your first home.
- You will meet one of your dearest and best friends in college: enjoy every single day of it!
- There’s nothing wrong with being the sensitive soul that you are. Embrace it and if people point it out, just shrug it off.
- It doesn’t matter what anyone thinks. Really, just shrug it off.
- Ask for help before anything becomes too difficult or too troubling. You’ll never come off weak if you do.
- Being labelled a “nerd” in elementary and high school is not going to determine your future. In fact, embrace it. That “nerdiness” will come in handy and be well-appreciated, you just wait.
- Your party phase will come in your mid-twenties: live it up and enjoy it. (You know your limits and you’re totally responsible, so just live in the moment).
- Take more time off for yourself: you don’t always have to be a people-pleaser.
- A successful career is not one where you feel obligated to say yes to everything. Communicate your limits and stand your ground.
- A minimalist wardrobe of high quality items is a better investment than 5-minute trends.
- Watch out for attachment: not everyone you’ll meet will be a lasting friend, but in time, you’ll figure out who to really trust.
- Don’t spread yourself too thin. Your time is valuable and you deserve some of it to yourself.
- Ditch the labels: you’re not awkward, dorky, clumsy, or a snob (as you may have overheard). You’re an outgoing introvert and you’ll learn to embrace it eventually.
- Your broken heart isn’t entirely based off the fact that he broke up with you; you’ll come to realize that it’s a pride thing. Don’t get the two mixed up, because people won’t really understand your frustration.
- Be more confident in your art of negotiation: know your worth, even if it means passing up an opportunity. Never feel forced.
- Trust your gut and try to explain things calmly – it’ll be more effective and you’ll find that people will listen more.
- Don’t give up on yourself: you deserve to take care of yourself. It’s not selfish, it’s self-love and self-appreciation.
- Your interests are not superficial – fashion is not an art-form to everyone. But it’s what you like, so embrace it.
- Certain industries are really hard to break into but don’t give up your passions.
- You have an intolerance to avocado… beware your guacamole intake!
- You may be a trusting person but not everyone can be trusted. Don’t be too disappointed when others let you down.
- Try to think before acting and reacting: it’s better business practice.
- Work on your darn posture!
- Learn to walk in heels better – own it and strut it.
- People need a second to cool off. Don’t expect immediate answers. Making yourself busy and letting people come to you is sometimes the solution you’ll both need.
- Request that vacation and go on more trips – you won’t regret it.
Cheers, everyone. It is so lovely to celebrate such a meaningful milestone with family, friends, and my readers. You are all so wonderful.
Portraits by: Laurie-Anne Thuot